International Sexologist, Susan Bratton, spoke to the Thinkergirls about how to have HOT sex in a new relationship.

“We need to feel that there’s safety when with a new lover, that we can let ourselves go in the bedroom,” she said. “It’s important that he or she will make it feel safe for you to express yourself sexually and won’t shut you down or shame you.”

While it can get a little awkies when you’re trying to get to know each other, it’s important to have an open conversation with your partner.

“Say [to your partner] let’s begin as beginners together, let’s play together, let’s explore what turns us on,” she said.

Susan also believes in ‘Sandbox dates’ – This date is where you as a couple try something new (outside of the bedroom) – something that you’ve wanted to try and want to explore together. Then, at the end of the date, try a new sexual encounter – whether it’s a sexual massage or a brand new sex position.

Finally, frame the date by telling your partner: “I really loved it when you were running your hands in really long strokes along my body…” or “when you smacked me on the butt…”

Wise words Susan. Wise words.

Check out the full chat below: